The Journey to Unshakeable Confidence and Overcoming Self-Doubt: Tips from Calgary, Alberta-Based Counsellors

Written by our team at Shelly Qualtieri & Associates Counselling & Coaching

Introduction

Have you ever been in a situation where you just didn’t feel good enough? Did it feel like a quiet pause before taking a giant leap, a slight knot in your stomach that accompanied feelings of inadequacy? Trust us, we get it. Self-doubt can be a tricky thing to deal with, and it can cast shadows of uncertainty over our minds. 

But here's the thing: self-doubt is a common human experience. And today we want to remind you that no matter how it may feel in the moment, it doesn't define who we are or what we're capable of achieving. When we acknowledge its presence and take proactive steps to overcome it, we can unlock our true potential and get out of our own way. 

That’s why in this article, we will delve into the depths of self-doubt, and its impact on our personal growth and well-being. And hopefully, by reading this we can give you effective strategies to overcome your doubts and build a confidence that is unshakable. Let’s break free from the shackles of self-doubt and embark on this journey of overcoming our insecurities together. 

How to Understand if You’re Experiencing Self-Doubt?

Self-doubt is a common psychological phenomenon that can hinder development and impede progress. It is commonly characterised by a lack of confidence, persistent feelings of uncertainty, and negative self-talk. Believe it or not many people experience self-doubt in various aspects of their lives, such as relationships, careers, and personal goals. As a matter of fact, some of your favourite artists, entertainers, scholars, and athletes, have faced challenging feelings of self-doubt at some point in their lives. 

For example, even Michelle Obama at one point faced insecurities. She stated when speaking about her time at Princeton

“I had to overcome the question ‘am I good enough? “It’s dogged me for most of my life

Whether you’re a former first lady or a first-year college student, we all have moments where we might feel unworthy of the opportunities the world has presented us. It's a common thread that connects us as human beings. However, it's important to recognize that self-doubt is a passing cloud that can be overcome, and the good thing is we can always see the sun once the clouds pass us by. 

What are The Effects of Self-Doubt?

Now that we understand more about self-doubt let’s transition into understanding the effects. As you read take a moment to pause and reflect on your own experiences:

1. Stagnation and Procrastination: When plagued by self-doubt, individuals often find themselves trapped in a cycle of inaction. The fear of failure and negative self-perception can prevent them from pursuing their goals and dreams. Leading to procrastination that may hinder their progress.

2. Low Self-Esteem and Self-Worth: Self-doubt erodes self-esteem and undermines one's belief in their abilities. This can create a negative self-image, causing individuals to doubt their worth and potential, and make them afraid to try new things and put themselves out there. 

3. Missed Opportunities: All of these effects combined may result in individuals shying away from seizing opportunities, fearing they are not capable or deserving. This reluctance can lead to missed chances for personal growth and success.

If any of these sound familiar, you are not alone! Self-doubt has affected all of us at some point and we want to reiterate that it is entirely possible to lean into your potential and silence the doubts. Let’s find out how below.

Strategies to Overcome Self-Doubt - Easy Tips from our Calgary, Alberta-Based Counselling Team

These are some strategies our Calgary, based Counselling team has put together, that might help you overcome and recognize self-limiting behaviours. 

1. Recognize and Challenge Negative Thoughts: Identify self-limiting beliefs and negative thoughts that contribute to self-doubt. 

Every time you think “I’m not good enough” challenge it by writing down a moment when you accomplished your goals or faced your fears. This small step will help you reframe negative thoughts into empowering moments of reflection.

2. Set Realistic Goals and Celebrate Progress: Break down your goals into smaller, achievable milestones. Celebrating even the smallest accomplishments can help you feel better about yourself and maintain a positive state of mind.

3. Cultivate a Supportive Network: Surround yourself with positive, uplifting individuals who believe in your potential. While going through difficult circumstances, it's important to look for assistance from friends, family, and/or a supportive coach who can offer guidance and encouragement, in times of need. 

4. Practice Self-Care and Mindfulness: Self-care may be a buzzword as of late but in moments of doubt, taking care of your physical and mental well-being can have many benefits. As a matter of fact according to the National Institute of Mental Health

Self-care means taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical health and mental health. When it comes to your mental health, self-care can help you manage stress, lower your risk of illness, and increase your energy. 

So with that being said, when you experience feelings of doubt, try engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Practice mindfulness techniques such as meditation or journaling to cultivate self-awareness and resilience, or try going for a walk when you need a boost of energy and confidence. 

The Path to Empowerment

“Self-esteem comes from being able to define the world in your own terms and refusing to abide by the judgments of others.” – Oprah Winfrey

Overcoming self-doubt is a transformative journey that requires persistence and self-reflection. By implementing these strategies and embracing your inherent potential, you can unlock a world of possibilities and achieve remarkable personal growth.

At Shelly Qualtieri & Associates, we ultimately want to encourage you to trust in yourself and take the first step to live the confident life you deserve.

Conclusion

Remember, nothing can replace the support of a licensed counsellor who can help you find your confidence in a safe environment. Our dedicated Calgary, Alberta-based team of counsellors & coaches are here to encourage you to have faith in yourself and take the first step to a full and confident life. 

Don’t hesitate to reach out today and book your free 30-minute call to learn more. At Shelly Qualtieri & Associates Counselling & Coaching we’re here for you, and if no one else tells you this today, remember you are more than capable of achieving greatness. 

Sources:

• Michelle Obama’s words will resonate with anyone who lives with imposter syndrome. (n.d.) https://www.stylist.co.uk/long-reads/michelle-obama-impostor-syndrome-career-advice-work-mental-health-relationships-becoming-book-us/240417

• Caring for Your Mental Health. (n.d.). National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH). https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/caring-for-your-mental-health