Couples counselling Calgary
Calgary Couples & Marriage counselling
specialized therapy for couples
All relationships hit bumps in the road. However, sometimes these bumps feel more like mountains that are impossible to climb. At Shelly Qualtieri & Associates, our Calgary couples therapists can help you and your partner navigate whatever life throws at you and come out stronger.
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Lesley Tims: Good fit for high-performance couples
Jade Cloghesy: Good fit for neurodiverse couples
Marizabel Forno: Good fit for couples who are struggling to navigate the demands of parenting a child with learning difficulties
Smyrna Gonzalez: Good fit for premarital couples
Kim Noll: Good fit for couples facing infertility, pregnancy loss, or birth trauma
Lorena Koenig: Good fit for couples impacted by chronic pain, perimenopause, or invisible illness
Hannah Wilson: Good fit for couples stuck in toxic patterns
Puja Patel: Good fit for couples with challenging family dynamics
Sadia Suleman: Good fit for intercultural couples or immigrant couples
Shelly Qualtieri: Good fit for couples who are empty nesters and unsure if they want to remain together or work things out.
Meet our Calgary couples therapists
Lesley Tims
Good fit for high-performance couples
When both partners are high achievers, the relationship tends to get whatever's left at the end of the day—which usually isn't much.
I work with athletes, executives, and the people who love them on the specific strain that ambition, travel, and constant evaluation put on a partnership.
I'm trained in the Gottman Method, and I bring calm curiosity rather than more pressure. Together, we'll build habits that hold up in a demanding season.
Credentials: Registered Provisional Psychologist, Registered Provisional Sports Psychologist
Specialty Areas: Couples, professionals in high-pressure environments, sports psychology, performance coaching, senior & corporate leadership stress, life transitions
Availability: Virtual and in-person in Calgary
Jade Cloghesy
Good fit for neurodiverse couples
In a neurodiverse relationship, most conflict arises from two nervous systems processing the same moment completely differently.
I specialize in autism, ADHD, and OCD across couples and families, so we skip the stage where one partner gets framed as the problem.
Together we'll translate between your two operating styles, build routines that genuinely suit both of you, and turn recurring friction into something workable.
Credentials: RPC (CCC) Registered Professional Counsellor
Specialty Areas: Couples, families, childhood & family trauma, grief & loss, neurodiversity
Availability: Virtual and in-person in Calgary
Marizabel Forno
Good fit for couples who are struggling to navigate the demands of parenting a child with learning difficulties
Parenting a child with learning difficulties can put strain on a relationship and cause division even when you’re united by the same struggles.
Often, there’s one parent pushing for answers, the other worried about labels, and both of you exhausted by school meetings.
I'm one of the few Calgary clinicians who offers psychoeducational assessment and couples work, so I understand all facets of this experience. We'll get you real information about your child, then get you back on the same team.
Credentials: Registered Psychologist, Sports Psychologist
Specialty Areas: Couples, sports psychology, mental performance coaching, psychoeducational assessments, adult ADHD diagnosis & testing, parental consultation & academic support planning
Availability: Virtual and in-person in Calgary
Smyrna Gonzalez
Good fit for premarital couples
Premarital counselling offers the chance to ask the awkward questions before they turn into arguments: money, family, faith, children, and what each of you does when things get hard.
I bring an open, non-judgmental style, and I also have specialized experience supporting men, who are so often discouraged from opening up about their emotions.
I offer sessions in both English and Spanish, with particular attention to the cultural expectations you're both carrying.
Credentials: Registered Provisional Psychologist
Specialty Areas: Couples, premarital counseling, early marriage therapy, men’s issues, male victims of domestic violence, breakups, childhood & family trauma, cultural challenges, grief & loss
Availability: Virtual and in-person in Calgary
Kim Noll
Good fit for couples facing infertility, pregnancy loss, or birth trauma
Infertility, miscarriage, a traumatic birth—partners grieve these devastating experiences differently and rarely on the same timeline, which is how two people end up alone in the same house.
My practice is built around reproductive and perinatal mental health, so I can hold both of your experiences at once without taking sides.
We'll rebuild the communication that loss interrupted and help you feel like a team again rather than two people coping separately.
Credentials: Registered Provisional Psychologist
Specialty Areas: Couples, traumatic birth stories, pregnancy loss & miscarriage, pregnancy after loss, parenting stress & adapting to parenthood, support for families with young children
Availability: Virtual and in-person in Calgary
Lorena Koenig
Good fit for couples impacted by chronic pain, perimenopause, or invisible illness
When chronic pain, perimenopause, or an invisible illness enters a relationship, both partners lose something, and both are usually afraid to say so out loud.
I work at that intersection of health and connection every day. I see couples virtually across Alberta and Ontario, which matters on the days when leaving the house simply isn't realistic.
Together we'll move past "you don't understand" into shared, practical strategies for energy, intimacy, and care.
Credentials: Registered Social Worker
Specialty Areas: Couples, menopause & perimenopause, chronic pain & invisible illness, emotional burnout, medical trauma
Availability: Virtual in Alberta & Ontario
Hannah Wilson
Good fit for couples stuck in toxic patterns
Toxic patterns are rarely one villain and one victim. More often, they’re about two people caught in a loop neither knows how to exit.
I focus on the mechanics: what actually happens in the ninety seconds before a fight escalates, and what to do instead.
My background in trauma, sexual abuse, and domestic violence also means I can tell the difference between a couple in conflict and a couple where safety has to come first.
Credentials: Registered Provisional Psychologist
Specialty Areas: Couples, relationship issues, communication, boundaries & conflict resolution, intimate partner violence recovery, self-worth & identity in relationships
Availability: Virtual and in-person in Calgary
Puja Patel
Good fit for couples with challenging family dynamics
Sometimes the hardest person in your marriage isn't your partner; it's a mother-in-law, a sibling, or a parent whose expectations still set the temperature in your home.
I help couples set boundaries with extended family without burning those relationships down, drawing on Gottman Method training and years of work with codependency and emotional abuse.
We'll sort out what you actually owe each other, and what you don't. Sessions are available in English, Hindi, and Gujarati.
Credentials: Registered Professional Counsellor (CCC), Registered Psychotherapist of Ontario (CRPO)
Specialty Areas: Couples, divorce & separation, infidelity, premarital counselling, narcissistic abuse recovery, trauma
Availability: In-person in Calgary and virtual in Alberta and Ontario
Sadia Suleman
Good fit for intercultural couples or immigrant couples
When two cultures meet in one marriage, conflict can arise over whose family, whose holidays, whose version of a good life wins.
I offer counselling in English, Urdu, and Hindi for intercultural and immigrant couples navigating exactly those negotiations, including the loneliness of building a life far from home.
Using Emotion-Focused Therapy, we'll slow things down enough to hear what each of you is really asking for.
Credentials: Registered Provisional Psychologist
Specialty Areas: Couples, premarital counselling, early marriage therapy, communication, trauma, cultural challenges & immigrant counselling
Availability: In-person in Calgary and virtual in Alberta and Ontario
Shelly Qualtieri
Good fit for couples who are empty nesters and unsure if they want to remain together or work things out.
The kids are gone, the house is quiet, and you're both wondering whether there's still a marriage here or just a long habit.
It’s a valid question that many couples face, and it deserves a proper answer rather than another year of drifting.
In more than 30 years of practice, I've sat with many couples at this exact crossroads. My work is curious rather than directive; I'll ask the questions that help you both see clearly, whichever way you decide.
Credentials: Registered Social Worker, Practice Founder
Specialty Areas: Couples, suicidal ideation, self-harm, family counselling for teen mental health, emotional regulation
Availability: In-person in Calgary and virtual in Alberta and Ontario
What sets our practice apart from other couples therapy providers in Calgary
Ten couples counsellors under one roof. We take care to match you to the therapist who fits your situation.
A free 30-minute consultation. Meet your therapist and decide together before committing to anything.
Evening and weekend appointments to make getting support as accessible as possible.
In-person in Calgary and virtual across Alberta, with virtual availability in Ontario as well.
Counselling in multiple languages across our team.
Genuine sub-specialties rather than one generalist approach applied to every couple.
Bite-sized, practical strategies you can use before your next session, not just insight into why things went wrong.
Support for the whole family. Individual, teen, child, and family therapy in-house, plus psychoeducational and ADHD assessments with no waiting list.
A mix of psychologists, social workers, and counsellors, which gives you more options.
Common reasons couples seek counselling
You might consider marriage or couple counselling if you're experiencing:
Communication Issues: persistent difficulties in effectively communicating and understanding each other.
Repeated Conflicts: Frequent arguments or recurring conflicts that seem unresolved.
Emotional Distance: Feeling emotionally disconnected or distant from your partner.
Trust Issues: Infidelity or other breaches compromise trust.
Major Life Transitions: Managing significant life changes, such as parenting, career shifts, or relocation.
Intimacy Concerns: Struggles with physical or emotional intimacy within the relationship.
Pre-Marital Preparation: Seeking guidance and support before getting married.
Stale Relationship: Feeling stuck in negative patterns or a lack of growth in the relationship.
If you're uncertain, a consultation with a couples therapist can help assess your specific situation and determine whether couples counselling is a beneficial step for your relationship.
How couples therapy can help
Couples or marriage therapy can offer several benefits, including improved communication, strengthened emotional connection, enhanced problem-solving skills, and the opportunity for personal growth within the relationship. Additionally, therapy can help couples navigate challenges, reduce conflicts, and build a more fulfilling and resilient partnership.
Improved Communication: Couples counselling enhances communication skills by teaching partners to express themselves effectively, listen actively, and understand each other, fostering a healthier relationship.
Enhanced Problem-Solving: Therapy provides couples with tools to navigate challenges, teaching effective problem-solving strategies and encouraging collaboration to overcome obstacles together.
Rebuilding Trust: For couples dealing with issues like infidelity, counselling offers a structured environment to address trust concerns, facilitating open conversations and steps towards rebuilding trust.
Increased Intimacy: Couples counselling focuses on emotional and physical intimacy, helping partners reconnect, rediscover shared interests, and strengthen the bond that initially brought them together.
Stress Management: Counselling supports couples facing life stresses, such as work pressures or family transitions, by providing coping mechanisms and fostering resilience to navigate challenges as a united team.
Connect for a free 30-minute call with a marriage counselling therapist.
Our approach to marriage counselling in Calgary
Our team of counsellors and psychologists is passionate about helping couples find healing and build strong and lasting relationships.
At Shelly Qualtieri & Associates, our dedicated team of counsellors and psychologists is committed to guiding couples through healing processes and fostering resilient, lasting relationships. Whether you attend sessions individually or with your spouse, our experienced counsellors can help you uncover the underlying issues and improve communication, allowing you to regain a positive sense of self and strengthen your relationship. We employ evidence-based therapies like Gottman Method Couples Therapy, CBT, DBT, EFT, solution-focused therapy, narrative therapy, and trauma-informed therapy, tailoring each approach to address specific challenges and promote positive change in your partnership.
Who are our couples therapy services for?
Our couples counselling support in Calgary welcomes couples of all ages, backgrounds, and sexual orientations, offering assistance to enhance and fortify their bond.
Whether you're grappling with communication breakdowns, struggling to resolve conflicts, or feeling the weight of negative patterns, our couples therapy services provide a dedicated space to address these challenges and nurture a more harmonious connection. We extend our support to couples at various stages of their relationships, be it in the early months of dating or after many years of shared experiences. Our therapists are committed to understanding and navigating the unique dynamics of each relationship, fostering trust, and developing tailored strategies for growth and fulfillment.
At Shelly Qualtieri & Associates, our inclusive approach ensures support for all couples, including same-sex couples, providing a safe and affirming environment to explore and enhance their relationships. If you're facing challenges in your relationship, whether it's with a partner of the opposite or of the same sex, we invite you to take the first step toward a more fulfilling partnership.
To develop a personalized plan for a fulfilling relationship, read here.
FAQs about working with a Calgary couples counsellor
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In couples therapy, our therapist offers a secure space for partners to engage in meaningful conversations and rediscover their connection. The therapist guides couples in solution-focused therapy, helping them shift their focus from blame to understanding the relational dynamics and facilitating new steps forward. Acting as a consultant, the therapist assists in making sense of relationship challenges and navigating the intense emotions experienced by distressed partners.
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Typically, the first session includes both partners. Following the initial session, we arrange one individual session for each client. All further sessions include both partners.
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The therapy modalities utilized are brief therapy, and typically clients can expect to see positive changes in their relationship problems or individual problems in 10–20 sessions. The number of sessions depends on the client, the severity of the problem, and the duration of relationship distress.
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If your partner is unwilling to attend couples therapy, it's important to address the situation with empathy and open communication. You can express your desire for both of you to work together on improving the relationship and highlight the potential benefits of couples therapy. However, therapy is most effective when both partners are willing participants. If your partner remains resistant, you may consider attending individual therapy to explore your own concerns and gain insights into the relationship dynamics. Ultimately, open communication and understanding each other's perspectives are crucial in navigating such situations.
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The basic task of the therapist is to provide and create a safe environment for the client to explore relationship issues, whether with themselves or with others.
Safety Concerns: If there is a risk of physical harm or abuse in the relationship, prioritizing safety is crucial. In such cases, couple counselling may not be appropriate until safety concerns are addressed.
Lack of Commitment: If one or both partners are not committed to the process and there's a clear unwillingness to engage in therapy, it may not be effective.
One-Sided Effort: If only one partner is actively working on the relationship, it can create an imbalance, and the therapy may not yield the desired outcomes.
Unresolved Addictions: If one or both partners are struggling with active substance abuse issues and are not actively seeking help for addiction, addressing these issues may need to take precedence.
Untreated Mental Health Issues: If one or both partners have untreated severe mental health issues that require individual therapy or specialized treatment, couples counselling alone may not be sufficient.
It's essential to consult with a mental health professional to determine whether couples counselling is suitable based on the specific circumstances of the relationship.
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Not at all. We work with dating, engaged, common-law, and long-married couples, as well as partners who are separating or co-parenting after a split. Premarital counselling is one of our most requested services—it's far easier to build good patterns early than to undo entrenched ones years later.
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Yes. Our team supports 2SLGBTQIA+ and gender-diverse couples, blended and step-families, long-distance partnerships, and couples navigating consensual non-monogamy. Your relationship structure isn't the problem we're here to fix. Tell us how your relationship works during your free consultation, and we'll match you with a therapist who's a genuine fit.
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Many extended health plans do, though coverage depends on your provider's designation. Some plans cover psychologists only, while others include registered social workers and Canadian Certified Counsellors. Because our team spans all three, we can often match you to a covered clinician. We provide receipts for direct submission; check your plan's per-session limit first.
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